On the few occasions I've had scares/thrills, Lives have been screwed up, but they always love the child. Or by relationships that weren't going anywhere. I know men who have been caught out by one-night stands Think they are always the poor victimised man with some awful harridanįorcing her fertility wishes on him. Pregnancy' is something else entirely, and it's not for me.Ĭan want to be fathers accidentally on purpose, too, you know. A happyĪccident is one thing, but actually to go out and plan an 'unwanted Has any sense, one hopes she will have chosen someone who is going toĭeal with the consequences in an adult way.īut I have never wanted to do that. Measures are called for if you want to get pregnant. Where everything is neat and tidy any more.

That's why I wouldn't chastise anyone – man or woman – who sought out parenthood on a totally subconscious level.įew relationships are perfect these days. But if it were to happen, it would not be a disaster. It's like I'm letting nature decide when the time is right.įar, the time has not been right, and thank God for nature's motherly So I have always thought: 'You know what, Have a lot of sex for pleasure these days, but there has to be a I'm not some reckless evangelist for promiscuity.

Transmitted diseases, and I know the emotional damage casual sex can Yes, I know about the dangers of sexually Waiting, I think not even that subconsciously, for the happy accident Have long taken an incredibly casual approach to contraception So, when I'm in a relationship – and sometimes even when I'm not – I I am nowģ9, but I have felt broody on and off throughout my 20s and 30s. That's not to say I'm on a crazed mission to get pregnant. Lost opportunity – depending on which way you look at it. Happened, was negative which means, for me, another narrow escape or a Happen, whether I stay with the father or not.' Result were as follows: 'If I am not pregnant, then good. Woman in my late 30s, my exact thoughts while I was waiting for the Three weeks ago, I bought a pregnancy test.

There's a name for this: 'gotcha' pregnancies and Kate Spicer, the writer in this picture, admits she's played the accidentally-on-purpose game and as a childless woman in her thirties, would be delighted to fall pregnant under any circumstances.

One night stand pregnant